Monday, September 18, 2006

Enquiring minds

They want to know, yo?

Word to Thelma.

Life is exploding around us and we're just trying to keep it together!

Our wonderful agency, Buckner Adoption and Maternity Services, is changing and evolving. Last week we received word that the agency would be restructuring, combining the international and domestic adoption programs. While that change sounds fairly innocuous, for a group of people who have been trying and waiting for years and years to start a family it was earthshattering news.

I didn't want to say anything specific until it was official, but now it is all officializated and all. The hardest thing about this experience has been that our warm, wonderful, passionate, and experienced caseworker and agency director is no longer our caseworker or agency director. (Shout out to Carol who we love and adore, too! And Debbie who has stepped into something amazing and difficult.) This was the loss I expressed last week.

Since all this has happened I am suddenly concerned with confidentiality. Not that I wasn't before, but this is serious stuff here. When our profile is selected by an expectant mother and we are matched to receive an adoptive placement, I am not sure what to do about my wee bloggie (word to Thelma again). I started this blog to keep friends and family abreast of what is going on. It has turned into more than that, though! (I'd like to point out my use of the word abreast - love it or leave it?)

Do I discontinue the blog when there are other people's lives involved and intermeshed with ours?

Do I keep this blog all vague and philosophical and share specific future news with family and close friends only?

A new day has dawned on Expecting #1 Through Open Adoption. Bear with me here as I am praying about what to do about these sensitive issues.

My official answer to adopting.mama is that we've been waiting for 3 months, and no, we have not had a match meeting with an expectant mother.

Blogging Birthmothers, feel free to chime in here and let me know what you think about my questions. Thanks!

4 comments:

Bethm411 said...

Blogging Birthmother here...

Do I discontinue the blog when there are other people's lives involved and intermeshed with ours? A resounding NO. You are expanding your life...not ending it.

Do I keep this blog all vague and philosophical and share specific future news with family and close friends only? Another NO. I wouldnt disclose names, but you can certainly tell YOUR story.

Honestly, we dont know you from Adam....so you are not really risking anything. Change the names of the parties and withhold any information you may feel is too sensitive.

Plus your story could (and probably will) help guide prospective adoptive parents and those parents that are thinking of placing.

Of course, I want to know how your story turns out, I read the beginning of your story here...it is only fitting that we should read the middle, the end and the contination here as well.

Just my two cents.

Barb said...

remember that there are many parts to the story: yours, hers, and the childs.

i try not to write anything that i wouldn't want written about me, personal-wise. you know?

email me if you want more info, but i'm not going to hog your comments! :)

Thelma said...

Word.
Keep it, darlin'.
You are a source of inspiration, joy, laughter, tears and faith to many. Least of all me.
Keep the wee bloggie.
We need you!

Adopting Momma said...

please keep blogging! i love that I found your page and we get to chat though I would love to do more of it! My only friends that have adopted were already placed and are the ones that pointed us towards our agency that we are with. You are the only person that is in this process where we are and I love reading about your journey as we also move forward in our wait.

ps...thats awesome that you know mia! What a small world.