tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18024224.post4112341453735580575..comments2023-10-19T08:21:12.768-07:00Comments on Blessed: AlienAmy T. S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04763436797787443032noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18024224.post-65454599005114915652009-04-23T21:13:00.000-07:002009-04-23T21:13:00.000-07:00Thank you for being honest! :) No mass hysteria he...Thank you for being honest! :) No mass hysteria here. We are now just a couple of weeks shy of being one year away from starting the adoption process... Books are great, and I'm probably about to get "grounded" from book-buying again (there are worse things to horde, right?... BUT it is the real-life experience from bloggers and friends who have adopted that will probably be the most helpful. Thanks for sharing!! :)NotTheMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08326881199621654561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18024224.post-87486985528421960952009-04-21T06:48:00.000-07:002009-04-21T06:48:00.000-07:00You took the words out of my mouth!
I did feel li...You took the words out of my mouth!<br /><br />I did feel like that with Mac when we brought him home. It takes time.<br /><br />And, it's the same whether your adopted child is your first or second. I knew how to parent - just not parent him! He was completely alien compared to SB. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034712520389831844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18024224.post-40293814510606883412009-04-21T06:34:00.000-07:002009-04-21T06:34:00.000-07:00...good enough is good enough. AMEN. I'll say it......good enough is good enough. AMEN. I'll say it! If everyone is alive and cleanish, and has eaten that day, it's a GOOD DAY! :)<br /><br />When we brought home our daughter, we'd been in the NICU for a little over a week with her, but STILL as we got into the car and started the drive home, I looked at Travis and said "Oh my gosh, we're taking someone else's baby."<br /><br />And I meant it! It felt like taking someone's kid! I KNEW with my head that she was ours, but my heart was worried, scared, and cynical. AND not only were we taking their child as our child, we were taking on a whole new family into our extended family. Responsibilities NOT TOO MANY OTHER PARENTS have to deal with. Whooo boy. <br /><br />I don't think, though, that being 10w pregnant really HELPED those feelings, though, either. :)<br /><br />Honestly, though and I know some of you would agree with this...I almost felt worse when our son was born. I thought OH MY GOSH our daughter is going to HATE US NOW. I could barely do anything with her, and I felt like I'd screwed up our perfect family. I wasn't super bonded with him yet because I'd spent the entire pg preparing myself for the worst. So it goes both ways, too. I think many people, both adoptive and bio parents, feel that way about a new baby.<br /><br />I think people just don't admit it. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18024224.post-33443883924205413382009-04-21T05:14:00.000-07:002009-04-21T05:14:00.000-07:00Amy, I love this post. I totally love it. I have s...Amy, I love this post. I totally love it. I have said to JB many times that I don't regret adopting and having a baby, but I often think, WHAT THE HECK DID WE DO? ... then I feel tremendous guilt and feel like I can't say this to anyone because we wanted this for so long. I felt every word of your post.Wendi Kitsteinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05515018912328000746noreply@blogger.com